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Why Becoming Yourself Feels Like Losing Yourself First
If you’ve ever felt as though you’re losing yourself, I wonder whether anyone has ever suggested something different. Perhaps you’re not losing yourself at all. Perhaps you’re grieving. Not necessarily the loss of a person, or a relationship, or a career, but the version of you who learnt how to survive. Because becoming isn’t…
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Why We Mistake Productivity For Purpose
We live in a world that celebrates busy. Ask someone how they are, and the answer is almost always the same, ‘Busy’. It’s become a badge of honour. A sign that we’re needed. Successful. Important… Driven. At some point, we’ve quietly started measuring the value of our lives by how full our calendars became.…
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The Version of You That Survived Isn’t the Version Meant to Lead
There comes a point in many women’s lives when what once made them successful begins to make them feel stuck. They’ve done everything they were supposed to do; worked hard, successfully relied upon, put everyone else first, kept the peace and held everything together. From the outside, it often looks as though they’re coping,…
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We Are Drowning in Advice and Starving for Wisdom
We have become a generation that reaches for advice almost instinctively. Before making a decision, we search. We ask strangers on the internet what career to pursue. We listen to podcasts about relationships while driving to work. We save Instagram posts we’ll probably never read again. We watch thirty-second videos promising to change our…
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You Were Never Supposed to Stay the Same Woman.
At sixteen years old, I was asked what I wanted to do for the rest of my life. Sixteen. I couldn’t legally buy a bottle of wine, vote, drive or get a tattoo and I had absolutely no idea what a pension was, but yet somehow, I was considered mature enough to make decisions…
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Every Time You People Please, You Leave Yourself Behind.
The hardest person I ever learnt to disappoint was everyone else. For years, I thought I was kind. Easy-going. Considerate. The sort of person who got on with everyone. I listened more than I spoke. I smiled when I disagreed. I softened my opinions. I laughed things off. I became incredibly good at reading…
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Ready Is Not a Feeling. It’s A Decision.
If procrastination were an Olympic sport, I’d have won gold at certain stages throughout my life. Honestly, if I needed to learn a new skill, start something unfamiliar or put myself out there in a way I’d never done before, I’d suddenly become incredibly busy. ‘I’ll do it once I’ve finished this…’‘I just need…
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You Don’t Just Birth a Baby. You Birth a Whole New Version of Yourself.
Everyone prepares you for giving birth, but nobody prepares you for becoming someone new. You can read every book, listen to every podcast and attend every antenatal class. Your midwife will prepare you for the physical side of birth; the growing bump, the hospital bag, the birth plan (which, in my case, never saw…
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It Was Never About the Healing. It Was Always About the Becoming.
After losing her brother at 19, Becky spent years searching for healing through counselling, nervous system regulation and personal growth. Discover why healing isn’t the destination – it’s the bridge to becoming who you’re meant to be.